H's affair was PA and EA, very intense but thankfully relatively short. It was very serious for about 4 months, serious enough she was regularly communicating with my MIL. About 4 months after it ended, she was still waiting for him to end our M. I think that might have pushed him over the edge to where he really didn't want anything to do with her. That said, I know they are still in occasional contact.
H has told me that it was a stupid mistake and that he mostly feels guilty about it, but not guilty towards me, guilty towards hurting her. And, he doesn't consider it an affair as in his mind our marriage was over. This all happened a year ago.
We had been putting our M back together since last year, but recently he's decided we're just "not right" for each other and now we're headed for divorce again.
Until this second round of us headed for divorce few months ago, I had no idea about his affair. (He didn't tell me I found out on my own.) Now I suspect someone else, but perhaps I am just paranoid. I also suspect that the b**ch is just sitting around waiting for our marriage to fall apart ready to swoop in.
