My H has had 3 affairs that I know of during our marriage. He confessed all of the following to me. A1 lasted about a year. It ended because she moved away with her H. A2 I have no clue but I think it was also about a year. A3 began about 13 years ago. All were PA. He bounced back and forth between A2 and A3 for several years. He was in touch with both of them for at least 10 years as I have cell phone records as proof. To the best of my knowledge he became "serious" 3 years ago with A3. Believe that is point at which A became E as well as P. I found out about all of these affairs 2 1/2 years ago. During this time, my H claimed to be stopping the A and wanting to stay married to me. He officially left Sept. 2. That is the point where everyone else found out. So he has been "exposed" for a little over 3 months. I do think you have to take the "exposure" factor into account. I think the relationship doesn't get a chance to experience the realities of everyday life until it has been exposed.
Thanks for starting this thread. I have wondered what the DBers experience on this has been. I've heard the 6 mos. to 2 years before. Wondering if that is even close.
Spitfire
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