Hey preggo, glad you are thinking about it. I will say that taking care of you and your child financially is the RIGHT thing to do. As you say, there are professionals who will figure out those amounts. Letting your life slip into poverty again because you feel badly is not the right thing when you have children to raise.
I wasn't really trying to ask you to decided what is revenge and what is just right. It may be impossible, and it may change in your mind and heart over time. I guess what I am hoping for is a little peace for you. Not peace that comes from fiery anger that burns away all the hurt. Like all fires that intense, that will burn out quickly and leave you cold unless you keep feeding it. Just peace to carry this child and bring him into the world. Peace to not keep going back and going back to the H issue but letting it go. It ain't a peace that's easy to get, and I sure as heck don't have it yet. I guess that's why I am wishing it for you instead of telling you how to get it.
