She pursued a man she knew was married to the point that she had sex with him after being told he was trying to reconcile with his pregnant spouse.

You know for a fact he said exactly that? But HE's the one that had sex with HER!! OPs don't "do" things to LBSs, they're in it for themselves. The WAS paints such a horrible picture of the LBS, how unhappy they are with the LBS, how cruel the LBS is, they may tell the OP they're leaving their spouse (even if they aren't), "we haven't had sex in years", blah, blah...

Oh man, I've been an OP, a WA and now a LBS. What's next?

Now, you have to prove in court

Yep. That's the costly $$$$ part.

Legal proof is me walking in on him and seeing it with my own eyes. I know that sounds sketchy, but there are very real ways of "proving" this without pictures or anything else. There's a fun trick called bluffing that my H is dumb enough to fall for. That's what good Ls are for. If H chooses not to settle with me out of court, then it would be his word against mine in court. Character would come into play, and there's no doubt who a judge would side with. I also have that friend of mine who saw him at the intersection, beside OW, the other day, giving her that disgusting hand gesture. My friend's obviously willing to speak out. Then add to it the 13 phone calls a day between the two of them, and the fact that H abandoned me, and the evidence -- albeit a lot of it circumstantial

Did your L state this is the standard of proof? I find it difficult to believe that. Seeing someone stand next to someone having a heated conversation? One person's word against another? He said, she said? That usually doesn't fly in court. You need PIs to testify and all that jazz. You also need money. Bluffs work before going to court, a good lawyer doesn't bluff in the court room, there's an old maxim lawyers go by: "Never ask a question you don't know the answer to." Yeah, the 13 calls a day imply some sort of relationship, and being a civil matter, it's about the preponderance of evidence, but boy it's a costly and time consuming way to get a D. North Carolina has a form of no-fault D, the grounds are one year of separation. Cheaper, and just as fast. Also, abandonment is grounds.

H was very calm for a change and said, "I'll call my L and tell him to notify your L that it's been dropped. I'm actually going to totally drop my L; I don't need one anymore." I told him that far be it from me to advise him, but to think twice about calling it quits with his L... H said, "There's nothing I can do. The ball's in your court now." He was implying that he's absolutely screwed.

I have a hunch that he's NOT going to drop his attorney. In fact, my hunch tells me what he's telling you is EXACTLY what his attorney suggested he try with you: get you disarmed. make you think you've got him pinned, get you to drop your guard, lay off.