Hey caverna! Legal proof is me walking in on him and seeing it with my own eyes. I know that sounds sketchy, but there are very real ways of "proving" this without pictures or anything else. There's a fun trick called bluffing that my H is dumb enough to fall for. That's what good Ls are for. If H chooses not to settle with me out of court, then it would be his word against mine in court. Character would come into play, and there's no doubt who a judge would side with. I also have that friend of mine who saw him at the intersection, beside OW, the other day, giving her that disgusting hand gesture. My friend's obviously willing to speak out. Then add to it the 13 phone calls a day between the two of them, and the fact that H abandoned me, and the evidence -- albeit a lot of it circumstantial -- is stacked against him. But circumstantial proof is still proof; always has been in a court of law. He's screwed.
I understand how most folks think I need to back off a little and give this a couple days to really think about -- and I certainly appreciate everyone's concern. Maybe one day I'll regret what I'm doing. But I doubt it. This isn't a choice I wanted to make. It was a choice that was forced on me. I'm not willing to wait in limbo and go through the motions to save my M when this is not the man I want to be with anymore. He's simply crossed the line. There's no going back.
