First of all, I'm giving my opinion in the spirit of someone who accepts that you're truly all the way done with your M. I don't give a flip what H thinks about your M. If you say you're done, though, then I'll believe you. But having said that, none of us here, particularly me, are gonna have any problems changing the direction of our support if you change your mind, okay?
You've said your L is the best west of the Mississippi. I gather from that you trust him. So if you trust him and this is what he advises, you'd have to have a pretty good reason to do anything different.
Now, I don't see much point in doing something strictly for vengence. Either you're over somebody or you're not. If you aren't, then you should be working on something other than revenge. If you are, you won't care enough to waste the effort.
But I have no problem with rattling this twinkie's cage. She pursued a man she knew was married to the point that she had sex with him after being told he was trying to reconcile with his pregnant spouse. Fu@k that chick. She can KMA. And if the law in your state provides you the possibility of compensation for her egregious behavior then I'd say you're entitled to it. And I don't see how she's entitled to any peace of mind for a long, long time. Perhaps this will give her some perspective on just what it is she's done, like when somebody who justifies driving drunk finally hits a light pole.
No doubt this move will play into H's suspicions of you. It'll be very hard for him to get over, confused as he is. But maybe he'll get some perspective on just what he's done, as well. Not only did he completely screw you over, not only has he put himself in a position to take a financial beating, he's also exposed his little "friend" to the legal system.
He can try to paint it however he wants but he ain't no victim in all this. And his twinkie ain't no victim, either. If they can't take the heat they shouldn't have hopped in the kitchen.
So think it over and be as sure as possible you're done with your M before you fire this bullet. I would imagine you can wait a few days without risk if you're unsure of what you want to do. But if you're ready then fire away. You deserve to take full advantage of any legal remedies available to you. And even more than that, D9, D8 and S0 deserve the best life you can now make for them. If you ever feel the law has been overly generous with you, you can decide to accept less of your own accord.
Bottom line: if your L thinks this is a good idea then I'm not going to disagree with him.
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