I just wanted to tell you that you sound amazingly together considering your situation. I think you are getting some great advice, such as not initiating any contact with your husband right now. Just say hi if you do happen to see him on the street.
Please do not allow yourself to believe that YOU "blew it" by walking in on your husband and another woman. You are not to blame for anything of the kind. I don't like it that he has convinced you if only you hadn't seen that, he'd be back home. Stay strong and take care of baby.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
