Yes, there is only one way that I know of, caverna, and that's exactly what I did: Irritate him until he stays away. Yes, it's "his" house, "his" driveway, but he abandoned it, and he doesn't need to be there now. He needs to take his toys and go home.
And yes, bigAl, it was an interesting exchange. My version of walking onto my back steps and yelling, I guess.
I do believe this is very unhealthy, but H is obviously mentally unhealthy. This was the *exact* same way he talked to me when he left the first time.
I didn't ask him to be at my house today. I haven't asked him to be there at all. But what do you do when your H, who you just busted red-handed with his pants around his ankles, looks at *you* and says, "I gave you another chance, and you blew it?"
Oh yeah. That's right. We tuck our tail between our legs and walk off. Or we tell him how we *understand* how angry they must be that we blew our last chance.
