Hey P&DB...I wrote a nice, long, wise post out to you earlier today...and have no idea where it went! I probably got logged off before I hit enter!
Anyhow, I think you are doing great, with all you've had to handle. You let your H know how you felt about all this (WHO would think you would be "OK" with him having goodbye sex! Um, sorry, NO) and you also let him know you are going to take some time to decide how much you think you can forgive - so you didn't close the door entirely.
Just take it slow. If this is going to be fixed, it will be a long process and you have lots of healing to do. Forgiving takes time, and what you feel today may not be what you feel tomorrow.
