I could just give your H a good kick!! That's the alien mind because I don't know on what planet he thinks it would be OK to do what he did!
Im SO proud of you that you've put the ball back in his court on this. And that you're talking with your L and protecting yourself. It must be scary to do something you have to do knowing the reaction it'll get. I hope he wakes up soon and finds you still willing to work this out.
