Quote: I still think he's not a liar. Maybe I'm naive, but I think I'm a pretty perceptive person. I think I would've known.
Yeah, and I was here for two months swearing my H would never have an affair - until I found out he was.
Quote: Everybody's initial feeling when he left is that he was seeing someone else, but I don't know. Maybe he knew her. More than likely he did. But I think he would be more the kind of person to leave so that he *could* sleep with her.
Whether he actually slept with her or was just having an EA before he left is moot. But I'm betting he had SOMETHING going on with her beforehand.
Quote: Two weeks after I found out I was preggo, H came home from work (on Sept. 16) and dropped the bomb -- out of absolutely nowhere. No indication, no warning. Everything had been beautiful up to that point. He had convinced himself the baby might not be his. He didn't start with the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" stuff. He went straight for the throat: "I hate you. You make me sick. I've never loved you. I've been lying to you for three years."
This is NOT the reaction of a guy who just doesn't want another kid - but it IS the reaction of a guy who has figured out that you being pregnant is going to screw up his hot new romance! And the BS about not being sure it's his - just a way to let himself off the hook - probably the lie he has been telling OW.
And as for OW staying under the covers - you sure it's not anybody you know? Why would she care about hiding her FACE? And I wouldn't take his assurances that it's not anyone at work for gospel truth.
Just working on my hunches here, but I'd say, in this sitch, a little knowledge is power.
And don't let him think you're okay with this. Just let him think he's lost you over it.
