Hey Ellie. Actually, I'm pretty sure he wasn't seeing anybody beforehand. He's obviously a piece of sh!t, I'll give him that, but he's not a liar.
I don't know her, and she had the covers over her head in the bed, frozen silly, when I walked into the house today. I only had one question for him when he told me about her on Saturday. I asked if he worked with her, and he said no. He said it was very important for me to understand that he didn't start seeing her until after we separated. I didn't ask any more questions. I didn't want to know.
Everybody's initial feeling when he left is that he was seeing someone else, but I don't know. Maybe he knew her. More than likely he did. But I think he would be more the kind of person to leave so that he *could* sleep with her.
I still think he's not a liar. Maybe I'm naive, but I think I'm a pretty perceptive person. I think I would've known.
I'd say I'm 85 percent sure she's someone he picked up in the aftermath.
And obviously, with his comments that she was telling him all the time that she didn't want to be a rebound, she comes across to me as a desperate person. And that's going to eventually be a turn off to H. I think, if he truly broke things off with her around Thanksgiving, that she figured (by calling him today, offering lunch and sex) that she'd finally show her last card.
I have one last card: I'm carrying his son.
I think I got one up. But I don't plan to use my son as such.
I think this A will last a while. But my H's not one to deal too well with desperation. That's the reason he fell in love with me, or at least why he said he did. I'll give the A six months. And by then, it'll be too late for him. Poor soul.
