my sits is below on "WAW is having and affiar"...anyway...wife is getting apt and I was planning on being in the house while she is moving, in fact I was going to help her get movers...but she said that she didn't want me going to her new apt because she thinks it would be too weird...of course it might be that she doesn't want me to know where she lives to see OM...well the question is do I stay here and help or do I say that it's too hard for me and leave...and do I leave a little note of love or support...or do I continue with DB and act like I have moved on and it doesn't really bother me? Help!
Well, can you stay there or is it too hard on you? I don't know if it's DBing or not, but I'd act like it doesn't bother me.
Let's see, when it happened to me, and she spent some weeks packing, I made sounds about her not leaving, I made sounds about her getting out... bottom line is that they have their minds made up at that point and their resolve is strong and they won't be swayed... so you might as well show them that you're gonna be just fine without them around and yes, maybe they're right, this is a good thing, not exactly the outcome you wanted, but it's that it's their choice. But of course, be sweet and smiley about it, not bitter or sarcastic.
