"The rumors of my death have been greatly exaggerated" --Mark Twain
Kim, Beth, Al, flaneur, Michelle, kdk and Lisa,
Thanks for the words of encouragement and concern. The good news: I AM FINE. Here's the thing, this new position that I was promoted into on the first has been taking up almost all of my time. Between the job and the Gym 6 nights a week, I haven't had time to cruise threads let alone post!
The job is great. My partner (there are two of us in this new position) and I are on pace to increase the numbers over last January by 77%. This in the first month and not even being organized yet. We're basically flying by the seat of our pants. And since my pay plan is based on last year's numbers, increases like that are NIIIIIIIIIICE!
So when I left off, I said I was going to talk about the whole XW-getting-married deal with D13. I did that on the Wednesday night that she came for her week with me (1/11). She basically said that she wasn't keeping it from me because she was told to. She just felt that that was something that her Mom should tell me. I understood. Here's the part that doesn't piss me off, it just shows how screwed up XW's priorities are:
Me: So when did you know? D13: Well, she picked me up here that Wednesday (to take her back to the Condo) and in the car she said, "I've got kind of a surprise for you". I said, "What?". She said, "OP and I got married this weekend". Me: Wow, um, OK. (and left it at that)
She was a bit teary during this but not overtly crying. I just reassured her that it was OK. Later we talked a little more and I found out that basically the two of them drove up to Vegas on their own, I believe it was August 13th. Keep in mind that his Divorce was final on August 10 (for Christ's sake, the ink on the paper wasn't even dry!!), and strangely enough OUR anninversary was August 16!!
So, XW goes and gets married to this guy not just without her only child BUT without even telling her (the most important person in her life??). More proof of the f***ed up mind of the WAS I guess.
More tidbits from the last two weeks...
XW picked up D13 at my house Wednesday to take her back to the condo before I got home. As I pull into the garage, I see a piece of paper from a yellow legal pad taped to the door that goes into the house. This is on it in Magic Marker:
Hey pops! Ha! Ha! Ohhhh man, I crack myself up. Well, anyways, I hope you had a super fun day at work!! I will miss you and I love you!! See you next Wednesday!! xoxo, D13
What a kid, huh????!!!!
Also, I was at the nail place yesterday again, and as I come out and walk to my Envoy, I notice XW's Maxima parked right next to me on the right. As I get in the truck, I'm thinking "What an idiot. Of all the parking spots in this shopping center she has to park next to me?" So I start to back out of the space and here she comes up the row to her car with a cart overflowing with groceries. (After all this is the weekend that douchebag has his kids so all 5 of them are over there in the Condo). She looks up quickly and sees that it's me (I'm seeing this out of the corner of my eye as I'm also watching for other cars) and she quickly looks down into her groceries. It's almost like she was embarrassed to be seen by me. So be it. I just think about what the DB book says about the excitement and fantasy wearing off. Not very exciting going to the grocery store on a Saturday afternoon alone. Where was OP and the 3 kids? Sounds pretty mundane to me.
Last night after I got done at the gym, I went and had dinner at California Pizza Kitchen by myself. Not exactly my idea of fun but at least I was out of the house.
Anyway, just wanted to update everyone. I think I'm going to be on here less and less not because of anything but I just don't have the time I used to have. I hope everyone has a great rest of their Sunday and until later...
