Wow! Its been awhile and I just got done reading and updating myself on your thread. There has been so much going on in your life and I haven't been here for you like you were for me. Gosh! The marriage thing hit me by surprise....believe me in my heart...I know you are the better one. I hope that you know that and realize it. I can't wait to hear what D13 has to say about it. I think she didn't tell you because she loves you so much and is hurt by her moms actions....she just doesn't want you to hurt. She is probably also a little confused on why her mom is doing all of this. Remember...she knows you better then you think.
Sorry to hear that there was not that "connection" with el train girl....that just means that there is someone better out there for you.
I am going to keep an update on you and reconnect myself. Its been hard because H and I have been getting along better and he got on to this site and read everything that I wrote and write so I try to stay low for awhile. Just want you to know that I am here for you DMF...big hugs being sent your way.