Wow, DMF that was some story. You must be shocked. It really is tough finding out about that from your nail tech. (BTW, awesome that you get manicures. Every guy should)
I'm wondering how you should take it from here with regards to your D. She has either assumed that you already knew or she has been carrying around this secret and I'm sure that has been tough for her.
So here I sit on a Saturday night contemplating, thinking... All that talk from my friends, my Counselor, all the books I read. They say that XW's depressed and unhappy, etc, etc. Well obviously not. She's happily remarried with her new dysfunctional family jammed into that Condo. 39-years-old, on her 3rd marriage, to a guy she met 14 months before, while SHE was married. And this to a guy who was married as well, who left his wife and two kids.
You know, DMF, this all moved really fast. It may take a while before the unhappiness sinks in. I can't tell you the number of people who have come to me and told me, "You're H will be back. This won't last." and then they proceed with stories of "this friend, co-worker, family member" who walked away and then came back. I always asked them politely, "And how long was that whole process?" Usually, their answers lie in the 2 year range. One was as long as 7. Now, granted, I've never heard of them D then M so quickly and then coming back. I think that is one reason that a lot of folks here seem to advise "stalling" the D if you're hoping to R.
This whole experience just s@cks. I'm sorry you found out in such an impersonal way. I hope you have a better day today.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
