Only you can know that. Just take it slow as the hoidays make all this extra hard. Also, before I DBd I joined a support center for divorcing woman and went for a consultation. I even went to a fancy divorce lawyer for a consultation. Nothing wrong with looking into it. Actually both those experiences made me decided that getting a divorce would be harder (for me) than hanging in there for as long as I can.
I know what you mean about the game playing. It is such a challenge not to feed into it and do the same. My DB coach told me: consistancy on your end is key. I know, I know... soooo hard!
I might suggest a book (I bought the book on cd): Bill Ferguson, How to Divorce as Friends.. (And maybe stay married .. or something like that). It really helped me to let go. His view on divorce is not the DB route BUT I think it has a lot of great advice in it. (I actually even did 2 phone calls with him where he guided me through exercises that made me bawl my eyes out on the phone with him> ) Point is it might help you to feel more at peace with the sitch and act accordingly.
hang in there!!!!
brava
Me: 36 He: 34 no kids Married: 2000 He left: July 05
) Point is it might help you to feel more at peace with the sitch and act accordingly.
