Hi caverna - Reading through your thread here brings back memories of how NG used to be 'confused' all the time. At that time, I spent so much of my energy trying to work out why he did/did not do or said/did not say things. With hindsight, I see now that he was just not with it. Many things that I still remember, he seems to have absolutely no recollection of. I could dig up his emails, but then, why bother?

My point? Your H is probably having an out of body experience. He may look like the same guy, sound like the same guy, but something important is missing. The best option for you may in fact be to assume he has a really bad viral infection, one that needs to run its course, and that there is just nothing to be done other than get on with things that are important to you

Some things that can reduce the power of the virus are the basic dbing techniques, especially 180s and mysteries. These seem to divert attention (mental energy in the affected host ) from the virus to you.

I hope some of this made sense, I fear I may have been rambling on Slowly

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