I think he is confused and doesn't know what he wants. Or quite possibly knows what he wants (the marriage) but doesn't know how to get to that point emotionally. My H said he always felt inside he wanted to come back at some point, but he never felt ready emotionally. He would reach out and then pull away. It's hard to find that balance of friendship without being too caught in limbo land. You need to protect your emotions while he is like this because you are likely to be at risk. But at the same time, not be too closed off from him. It sounds like whatever you are doing is working, as frustrating as it may be. I'd probably validate, thank him for doing up the dishes. You're doing great Caverna, as emotionally difficult as it is to be in limbo, keep doing the great job of GAL and trust in what will be, will be.
