Caverna's thread IV - H back home

[bravagal]

Caverna,

I am glad you had a good C session and a good time in the book store. You are handling things so well. Keeping focusing on GAL and taking care of yourself. No matter what happens at least now the sitch is out in the open and you can take it from there.
I truly believe that everything happens for a reason even if we at the time do not understand what it is.

Hang in there!

bravagal

[bj]

hey Caverna and if that counsellor is any good they will be able to help you remain positive

ok so tough love it is - havn't read the book what is a Dobson letter

you GAL a beautiful fun and eventful life and be great at it

bj

[WCW]

Hi caverna. Love Must Be Tough is good, I read it also and found strength from it. I should reread it as well. Another one I just finished is When Your Lover is a Liar. It's not as good, but it might be helpful for you. There is options for staying together as well as options for dealing with the decision to part ways.

blinding myself with positives

I think this has a lot to do with our frame of mind, the day we are dealing with. We want to see positives for ourselves and build momentum, certainly nothing wrong with that. Along with positives, we have to be honest with ourselves as well.

[Lost_In_Love]

Hi sweetie! So sorry I have neglected you. Things have been hectic the last couple of days.

I am so sorry you were feeling so alone and that your H was so stern on his voicemail message. He could have been that way for a number of reasons.

I am glad you have started your C sessions. I hope you will get great advice and will feel more at peace with what is going on.

I will try not to be such a stranger.

[caverna]

What's wrong with me???

I had a full night of sleep! I usually wake up with tachicardia (sp?), cry a little bit, do a little prayer, and go online to vent.

I woke up late, stayed in bed watching sappy, silly Meg Ryan movies, ate breakfast in bed and want to sleep some more, get ready to the gym and do some cleaning.

No I am not depressed. That's actually a good sign. I have been waking up at 5am for the last 5 months. I was always finding ways to be out and about because I was so restless and watching TV made me anxious for some reason. Now all I want is to veg out and enjoy a lazy day.

I don't want H to see me because he will know I am getting over him. Why is it bad? Because then he won't feel guilty anymore and will move his big plasma TV and surround sound home theater away! LOL!!!!

[princess_nic]

Cav,

I've had the same worries about seeming great, so then H will not want to come back. But the truth is, he didn't want to come back when I was falling apart, so how could this be worse? Also, it's good for *me* (and you). We need to take care of ourselves. Your H married a strong woman and that's who he wanted in his life. He is probably a weak man (I know mine is) and wanted a woman to support him. Frank D has a great post about this on the infidelity board.

You need to take care of *you*. I'm glad you had a good sleep and a nice evening.

Nicola

[caverna]

H just dropped off the dog. Let him in and closed the door behind him. RRRRRRR.

[No_hill_for_a_Swimmer]

Your H is gonna spend days beating himself after you have the life you want and he is eating dog food. It will probably take years when he realized what is inside the paper wrap is Rover's best and not a 16oz New York Strip from grain fed Iowa cattle farms.

Alpo anyone?

[bravagal]

yeah Caverna,

Good for you. You deserve it!!!!

bravagal

[WCW]

16oz New York Strip from grain fed Iowa cattle farms

Hey No Hill, technically, a grass fed steer is much better tasting and not as fatty, so better for you too.