Caverna, while your situation isn’t exactly like mine, there are similarities. My H also felt off for a long time during the reconnection phase. I think your H’s behaviour isn’t unusual although VERY difficult to deal with the rollercoaster of emotions. I think it’s part of the awakening stage where they run back into the tunnel a bit. They are aware of the choices they made, know a bit of what they want, but they don’t know how to get there and their feelings aren’t where they need to be yet, so they spend a lot of time being depressed and floundering. All I can say is have patience and give him time. This past summer my H was acting like this and he did run back into the tunnel. I found it painful and did go dark more or less, not completely, but not as emotionally available, we both did. However, time didn’t change what was already there. And now he is falling in love with me all over again. And from reading your threads, I sense some of the same process with you and your H. I don’t for sure obviously, but I think time is what is needed. Continue to live your life, detach enough to protect your heart but follow the path and see where it takes you.
