This is so hard. I don't want to tell you to do the wrong thing. I hate giving advice!!!
What is H saying besides he was used to his freedom? Maybe ask him what it would take for him to feel like he has more freedom? Or maybe in the nicest way possible, try to find out how much freedom he wants.
I am sorry. I know I am not helping you. I hope someone else jumps on here with better advice. Oh Becca....
