Sounds to me like your H still needs to decide if this is what HE wants. I hate to say that out loud to you but I almost feel like he is trying to say he doesn't think YOU can get past this so he can have an easy way "out" so to speak.
I could be wrong and I sure hope I am but that is what I think I am hearing.
Do you think you can get past this? If so, I think you need to make that clear to H and really work on moving on from this.
H needs to realize this isn't easy for either one of you though and it will take some time for you both to get to a good place again. It won't happen over night. It is going to take work and probably lots of time.
