I wanted to know why he was covering his head up with a pillow while I was trying to pleasure him. It offended me darnit. I want his eyes open and listening to me instead of possibly fantasizing about someone else. OK, rather than believing he's got the pillow to drown out sounds, you automatically jump to thinking he's fantasizing. See any problem with that? Try asking yourself in these situations, "What do I know to be true?" and all the negative voices in your head will usually become obviously negative self talk. Make sense? What was his answer?
