Hi, Mystia.

I can understand your frustration.

There is a book you should consider reading. It is titled "Surviving An Affair" by Willard Harley. It will help you immensely in your situation.

It is very likely that your husband is in continued contact with the other woman. This will definitely affect your relationship negatively, including sex.

If there is even a remote chance that he has physically seen her, then you need to get yourself tested for STDs asap. This is not a bad idea anyway considering his past actions.

Old flames die hard, and there is no room for them in a marriage. It takes time for him to get over her. Every time there is contact, the clock gets reset to zero. Every time there is contact, your relationship suffers.

What books of Michele's have you read?

Oh, and getting rid of all memorabilia includes clothes and even cars. Anything she has given him.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

Last edited by NOPkins; 12/14/05 04:50 PM.
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.