Our sex life hasn't been bad this whole past year. There's been times when it's been great. Like during the time we were in the process of moving, he had already moved and was working in our new town. So when we saw each other on weekends, it was great. Maybe it's true that absence makes the heart grow fonder or maybe it was just the excitement of sex in somebody else's house. But I do recall a time he kissed me on the couch more passionately than he had in a LONG time.
We've both been really stressed since we moved due to financial problems, we've filed bankruptcy, gone down to a one car household, etc. He's working two jobs right now and I work at home, with my kids home all day so we're both at the end of ropes by the time we get to spend any time together on a given day.
As for the OW, she's 4 hours away near where we used to live. No, contact has not been broken off. They have each other's cell numbers. There was a time when contact was legitimate. After, their fling she tried to claim she was pregnant but the test was negative. A few months later H found out she was indeed pregnant but couldn't get her to talk to him. Come to find out it was a surrogate pregnancy, this is from other's sources, so I know it's the truth. She's tried to get between my H and I from the beginning. But anyways she calls occassionally. H never calls her, I know because I get the cell phone bill but he stills keeps her number in his phone. I've asked him to erase it but haven't pushed it. I sometimes imagine really awful things happening to her . . .
I don't think her minimal presence(it's been 2 months since they talked last) is the problem. Maybe I'm wrong. I'm trying to make our sex life more exciting but he seems to be critical and very nonchalant about everything I'd like to try. Once again, behaviors I once was guilty of. He refuses to go to counseling with me despite the fact that we went to several sessions with a therapist we both liked. He now thinks it's brainwashing. One more critical fact, our former therapist was concerned my husband is bipolar. My MIL also believes this to be the case. So what, i live with this untreated illness for the rest of my life or we divorce and he gets a wakeup call. I'm hoping maybe after I get these books he might pick one up. We used to read those type of books together and discuss them so maybe if I can bring it up in a format like that things will start to change.
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No solo de pan vive el hombre
Y no de excusas vivo yo.
