I think my rejection came after our son was born. So probably close to 2 years I pushed him away, laughed when he tried to romance me and was just generally a b*tch who didn't care what he was feeling. I was tired, son occupied much of my free time when I wasn't at work, house was a wreck and the last thing I wanted to do in my free time was to be sexual with my husband. He would bother me all the time for sex and I became resentful and began the withholding pattern. At the time, I didn't understand why he couldn't see my point of view and failed to see how I was hurting him.
I have spent the past year working on our relationship, acknowleding my part in the breakdown of our marriage. He admits that I've made some drastic changes in my negative behaviors, for the better. But sometimes I feel like I'm taking all the shortcomings for our sexual relationship because I know what needs to be done, I try, but I feel like he puts no effort into it.
He knows I ordered SSM, His Needs Her Needs for Parents and another book on sex games. He knows I find this to be a huge problem for us and I can only hope at one point he can work past this. He tends to hold onto hurts and grudges so I'm not all that optimistic.
No solo de pan vive el hombre
Y no de excusas vivo yo.
