Can you start with affection and build up from there?
Give him back rubs and snuggle close to him on the couch?
Then let your hands wander and turn it into a seduction?
It sounds like your man has an idea of "who you are" and he won't let it go.
So you will have to show him who you *really* are, if he is wrong. It will take time and patience on both ends--yours to demonstrate what you're really made of, and him to demonstrate that he is going to be faithful and trustworthy.
