Glad that you are moving back to your apt. That is your home honey. The only reason you should have left is because you felt it was the right thing to do at the time. You don't anymore, so go home. He can decide what he is going to do from there on out.
As for his grief...death affects people in such different ways. I've had so much death in my life, that I am not necessarily jaded by it, but I've learned acceptance of circumstances that I have no control over. Learned it at such an early age. Some people just can't accept or they take blame. Dave when we first met, had breakdowns over death. His best friend had been killed execution style several years ago and he blamed himself on his death because he put his friend in the sitch that caused the murder. I learned to cringe every Labor Day. Finally a couple of years ago I suggested going to see his friend's parents...to make peace with them. It seemed to work because he then went to the gravesite and I guess made peace within himself too...but he's just never dealt well with anything death related, always took it so personal. I know how badly you want to help him with his hurt, it's a woman's nature, but there are just some things that they have to work out on their own time...but as long as they know they have our love and support when/if they need it. That's all we can do.
Going to join you in a glass of wine my friend. Best wishes for a wonderful weekend my friend!!
Having the blinders off, does us all well. It gives us full vision of our life with/without our WAS in it. The clarity to see things and people for who they truly are and not for who we make them out to be.
