The Meaning of Love

[Becca1975]

SS, take a deep breath...all is not lost. I've never understood why a woman would apologize for doing what you just did, your H is having an affair(s) and you don't have to put up with that. What he managed to do is to project the fault back onto you so that you are the bad person, not him. You cannot accept that fault. You just can't. YOU are not the one who had the affair.

This reminds me a bit of what my H has put me through, except that there was no affair. Every time I'd find something that he had done wrong, I'd get angry (and we are talking not paying child support or something like that) and he'd turn it around to where he was considering coming back to me and I'd be the one bawling and asking for forgiveness.

You need a break. This might be a good thing.....just stay away from him for a while. I know it is hard, but don't call him, don't go to where he is, pretend you just do not even care any more. These WAS's who are having affairs are able to get away with it because the know they are keeping us on the line while they act like this.

Take a deep breath.....everything is gonna be just fine. You didn't do something that you can't recover from. Take some you time.....a nice long bath, a glass of wine, a good book, just something for you.