How can someone who once loved us so much now hurt us so much?
That's the million dollar question...Sometimes, i think that they have no control over what they are doing b/c they are so blinded by their selfishness.
RE: the pix...i can tell you what my H told me when i questioned him about removing photos of us from the house: it was too painful for him to look at them every day. Of course, i told him i thought it was b/c he had his GF at the house. But, that was before i started DBing. As you can imagine, it didn't yield good results. But, i'm just passive/aggressive that way. Better than throwing something at him...hmmm, or maybe not.
Not only do I feel like an idiot considering just about everyone knew except me,
For me, i was in such denial about what my H was doing. I didn't want to believe it was possible. I even took the blame for our M crumbling b/c frankly, that was less painful then believing he was cheating. Even now, there are times when i think "no, he's not having an A with her." But, i think that is the naive me talking...the one who wants to believe the good in everybody...its hard for me to understand how someone could be that way b/c i would never do that...so, maybe it is good that i don't understand...says more about my moral character. Anyway, enough hijacking.
I've been thinking for months now, if my H is with someone else, just tell me so i can move on. For whatever reason, he chooses to continue to lie. But, i just remind myself that i can't control him, and that this isn't the person i married. He is under the control of some other demon right now who has no concept of loyalty.
