SS- First, i have to say that i totally hear you on being upset that your H removed your wedding pix from prominent places in your house. My H started doing the same thing about 4-5 months ago. If you walked into my house right now, you would never even know that a woman "lived" there...everything having to do with me, my family and our wedding has been removed from sight. And it hurt so much. B/c every time i went there, i was wondering what would be gone next. So, i took matters into my own hands and packed some things away on my own, before he could do it. And to be honest, i was hoping it would upset him or piss him off...i don't think he noticed...whatever. But, really, WTF? Last time i checked, my name was still on the mortgage...bastard. Sorry.
Perhaps I am not accepting the truth, but I really believe that we will eventually work things out.
I think the same thing all the time...that me and my H were just meant to be and that we will be, once he gets his head out of his a$$.
RE: going dark...this is a tough one. I have done it half way. Meaning, i don't call my H...i let him call me. And when he does, i usually take his call. So, its kind of halfway dark...maybe like twilight? Anyway, i found this to be somewhat productive. This way, i am letting him do the initiating, but i am there for him if he needs me. B/c that's been a complaint of my H's...that i haven't been there for him emotionally. So, now, whenever he is struggling (which seems to be about every other week...i get a late night phone call where he can't sleep, doesn't feel good, or is upset), i talk to him. I hope that he is starting to realize that i am there for him. So, maybe you can start it off that way...take it step by step. First, you stop calling him...see what happens. Its a small step and i think it will give you back some control...it did for me.
I hope that was helpful...sorry if i hijacked or rambled. Take care.
