I saw my H this am and that will be the last contact I have with him for at least a week. I'm going dark this week, perhaps longer if I can endure.
The hard thing is that unlike many of you, my H and I have had some really positive interaction. He still tells me he loves me and we are still ML.
BUT, . . . despite everything he cannot let go of the "we're just not right for each other."
Perhaps I am not accepting the truth, but I really believe that we will eventually work things out. I guess if I didn't think that I would have just packed it in long ago.
Any tips on going dark? I know this means I should not answer his phone calls and reject his request to go out to dinner this Friday. The trouble is, I feel as if this is a delicate balancing act. I need to go dark but not too dark and push him away.
In the past we have had one reoccuring argument. When his father was close to dying I was on a road trip and because we had an argument (and I had no phone reception) I didn't call him back. He brings it up time and time again as an example of how he can't depend on me. Each time we have the argument I tell him that I didn't have phone reception and I had no idea that things with his dad were so dire or I would have found a way to call.
That said, I have noticed him showing more interest in me since I moved out. And, this morning when he realized that I was leaving our apartment as soon as I was done working on our computer and didn't want to chat, he stood by the door and insisted on giving me a hug and then asked if I wanted to go to dinner later in the week.
I know I have to do this and I believe I'm in a better frame of mind this week but I'm just so worried that this might push him away. I guess I just have to trust that he will realize how much he still loves me and come around.
