Imdi you almost made me cry. My H always complained that I could never say what it was about him that I loved. And you're right--it's the hundreds of little things that I love. I've always said that the longer I know him, the more handsome he looks.
I'm trying to remind myself that the statement "beautiful women want to be told they are smart and smart women want to be told they are beautiful" applies to men too. He's always complimented my looks, me his brains. I've been making a real effort to consistently tell him how nice he looks. (And he is damn cute!)
The cat part really hit home too. We don't have kids but how he's treated our cats mirrors what everyone has written about their spouses treatment of their kids. He used to be the one to feed them in the morning. When he pulled away from me he stopped feeding the cats and didn't even acknowledge them. Now that we're making slow progress he's started to play with them again.
And Sassy I hear you on the we deserve someone better. Whether we can "do better" is unimportant. We probably all could. But that misses the most important part. We are with our Hs because they bring something out in us, they make us happy and we love being with them. Funny that people would say that about your spouse but not about your friends.
