Very good stuff Imdi...I did something similar and it was funny Dave's response was...and why are you telling me this now. I had been telling him all along in our R...but he never heard it, never listened...and my actions were always stronger than my words. Even when we discussed getting married his question would be "Why would you want to marry me." I think back then that he never thought himself worthy and even though I tried to convince him, I guess I couldn't break down the walls of depression. It's almost obvious now to me after reading about the passive/aggressive and depression that Dave was suffering greatly in his own personal hell and there was truly nothing I could do to help him.
My friends from day 1 have said Honey you can do a thousand times better than him, why are you wasting your time. His friends said the same thing...honey your miles ahead of him, he's not worthy of someone like you...blah blah blah...and I ignored them all...but while they thought that I was foolish in my passion for trying to save him from himself, work on our R...they did stand behind me and for that I am thankful...and now that I have dropped the rope and started to date once again...my friends can't believe the change in me...they never knew the me before Dave and now they are seeing this person bloom in front of them...a funny story...a couple of weeks ago I was sitting at the table at the dart tourney and I said okay boys I am ready to start dating again...and we all looked around the room...and laughed, okay so we know it won't be anyone from here...but they were sooo happy to see that I had finally accepted things as they were...
