Bow, KDU, Kismet - Thanks for checking up on me. Am doing fine. Will update in a while.
Bow - Thank you very much for the wonderful advisory notes. Will try to remember those IF H and I do reconcile. At this moment, really don't know and do not want to think about it.
KDU/Kismet - No decisions from Mr. Yoyo yet.... Gave him the extension till 5/6th of Feb.
From my last post...can't really remember the details.Thurs & Friday, brief texts from H about some unrelated stuff.
Saturday (28th) : H did come back from Country X. He texted me to pick him up at the station, and told me that I should drop the boys off at my mom's first so that we could have drinks at the hotel (located adjacent to the station), and then go over to my mom's for the Reunion Dinner.
We had drinks at the hotel, can't remember our convo. But was pleasant enough. He was eager to go home to have s@x. At first, I told him NO more until he sorts out stuff which is about ~ 5th Feb. (But you know me...can't resist.. ) Anyway, on the way to the car, think he said something like "who says I am staying at home". To which I turned back towards the hotel and said "Okay, then let's check in first". Well, he dragged me off and pushed me towards the direction of the car. Went home. Did it and then headed off to my mom's for the reunion dinner. He was very normal and family treated him normally too. Immediately after dinner, he said that he had to go visit his father (more about this later) and then out to drinks with his friends. So off he goes, and came back about 11.45 pm.
Next morning (Sunday)...early in the morning, he said that he had to go visit some friends. (Of course, I was abit upset. The first day of CNY, it is a day where we visit our parents first)... He knew I was upset, and we also had a little tiff. Blah blah blah. Then he went out. He texted me but I didn't see it. BUt He called me H: Did you see my text? Me: NO H: Anyway, I just want to tell you that if I am not sincere, I won't be asking you for the one week. I would be jumping for joy now to go. I will sort it out okay? Blah blah blah. Me: Ok. Whatever. H: As you said, you want me to be truthful, I will have to go to her place later today to drop something off. Me: What? H: Well, it's not the stuff that you packed this morning (Actually, I was really thinking if it's the stuff I packed) Me: Then what? Money? H: Can you please not ask. blah blah blah
As I was leaving my house, in the car. H called again. H: Can you do me a favor? Me: What? H: Can you please not let your mom know that I am out this morning? (As I said, we were supposed to visit family elders first!!!) Me: ... H: Can't you see that I am also trying to patch things up with your family? Blah blah blah blah. Me: OKay.
So, I went off to the temples with my mom, and then later, H brought the boys over to my mom's. And he went over visitng some relatives with me too. After that, hung out at home. I did ask H "thought you have to go over there? to which he answered "already". I didn't pursue the issue. We did have another session and there was a lot more hugging and niceness this time. I don't know if I am deceiving myself or what... Asked him if he needed me to fold some of his clean clothes for him to take back with him, to which he replied "no need". Then I took him to the station to catch his flight. Gave me a peck before he left. I have to say that it did cross my mind if ow is going back with him...as it is long holidays over here.
Monday (30th) SIL came over for a visit. And guessed what. FIL called and asked about H...wondering how come H did not call him. And instantly bells were ringing....If H went to see his father on Saturday, why would his father ask about him?? H lied again??!???!!! He was probably over at ow's home. I sent him a text "Guess what? Your father just called to ask how come you didn't contact him. WOnder where you really went on Saturday night.... MMmmmm". H replied "I was out with P. Have to go now...call you later."...He did call about noon. Boys spoke to him but I didn't really want to talk but he insisted. As i was having lunch, I kept it real short.
Anyway, these past few days, have been rather busy myself. With the festivities...I have been either having friends over or am over at friends' houses. ow may or may not be with him...but it is not something that I have control over. So, not going to think too much about it.
Today...was over at a friend's house, we did have a talk about my WAS. His lawyer friend said that when I called him up for a Divorce Lawyer, he called my H and my H told him "if push comes to shove, he will want the family". So, I don't know how true this is. This was before H came back from Country X.
I want to see the positives but at the same time, I don't want to think about it as it is really just 2 days away... I've been thinking about what I should do... I thought about it and have decided that I would leave the legal papers for H to initiate. Once he sends them to me, I will get my own lawyer to review and negotiate. No point getting myself all stressed up to draw up the papers. Besides, if ow wants to marry, she will be pushing H to sort out the papers. Meanwhile, I would just carry on with my life and to limit contacts with him. Contacts would just to discuss about the boys. I've told him that after the deadline, he should get a mobile for the boys that is dedicated for his calls. So that he doesn't have to call my house or my mobile. As long as I still get my $$, I wouldn't worry about the legal papers. I am not the one in a hurry to get married....
If I am not wrong about a person, I don't think he will STOP giving me the $$. Even if he is very much in love with the ow, I know he still cares for me, and wouldn't want me to be in doldrums. So, I feel that even if he decides to leave us...Life would be okay....
One positive is that he calls the boys every day, and does want to ask how I am doing with those calls. Even if he does leave us for the ow, he would still be concerned about me and the boys....and it would really drive her nuts.. Previously, wanted to go talk to ow...but decided against it... Don't wanna waste my time and energy on trash. If H wants to go to the trash...Why would I want to smell it too??? Makes no sense, right?
So, am just hanging loose......and living the moment...of festivities and get-togethers...
. At first, I told him NO more until he sorts out stuff which is about ~ 5th Feb. (But you know me...can't resist.. 
Previously, wanted to go talk to ow...but decided against it... Don't wanna waste my time and energy on trash. If H wants to go to the trash...Why would I want to smell it too??? Makes no sense, right?
