Yoyo your last post annoyed me a little. Your H seemed to be weighing up which scenario would be better. It was like he was worried that if he went with OW you wouldn't let him see the boys and wanted to know where you would live etc etc.
I would be making my decision and stuff him b/c he just keeps getting extensions. Even if you make the decision, who said he can't win you back again but at least you would be showing him you mean business.
Hey if he hasn't answered you by 2nd week of Feb are you going to contact OW or her family?????