From my last post..H called at 8.30 pm to talk to boys. Had a brief chit chat with him. He called at 10.00 am again. Brief chit chat again. No R talks. At 10.30 pm, sent him a short text ...nothing much just regular niceties which he replied that he will talk to me tmrw. I went to bed and then heard a phone call...was already fast asleep. Had some brief chit chat and then the R talk began. H asked for a one week extension!! I mean WTF??? He said he needs to talk to ow, and wants me to promise to not talk to the boys. WTF??? I told him that I've given him 10 months to talk to ow. And if he can't get it settled in 10 months, what makes him think that he can sort it out in one week? Told him that I didn't want to live in denial anymore..thinking there is hope but the fact that if he can't sort it out in 10 months, and even with him moving to a different country for 5 months and he still cannot sort it out means he will never sort it out. He said "maybe I am a procrastinator and you are giving me an ultimatum now!" . I said "you hate ultimatums" blah blah blah.
He said he will be back on Saturday and asked what is the course of action blah blah and said that his dad asked him to have reunion dinner on Saturday... Me: Good...then you can bring her to meet him. (His dad is living with his ow...another @sshole!) H: I won't be bringing her okay? Me: Whatever. Means you won't have dinner with us. It's fine. You don't have to. H: I told him that I will be having dinner with you and then going to his place. Me: Whatever. Really can't stand all these nonsense from H.
All sorts of questions from H "Can we still be friends? Can we still occasionally talk on the phone?" Told him that for everybody's sake, we should not have any contact whatsoever...but I will continue to do the right thing which is allow the boys to see him. He was still going on and on about Australia...if he goes and work there, it will definitely be the END between ow and him, and in any case, he doesn't think he will work there and if he does, we will be going with him. At this time with only less than a week, he is still sooooo wishy-washy. I just cannot stand it but remained rather calm and pleasant. Just told him a matter-of-factly that someone is going to get hurt either now or later. This sitch cannot continue to go on and I would prefer it to be now then later. Blah blah blah...did have some tears and he heard it and said "can you stop with the cry-y business??" Talked about engaging a Lawyer blah blah balh.Anyway, said our goodnights....
Basically, really don't see him doing anything...to solve this sitch. Ultimately will be me to call it quits. And I think I've had enough...although the last few contacts were pleasant enough.
This morning...sent him a text "Sorry but I have been thinking... It's either u want to commit to the marriage or not...Giving you one more week to see what she thinkis is a no-no. Don't want to draganymore. SUnday will be a new chapter in my life either with a committed hubby or without one. WHole world thinks I have given you ample time. But as promised, will talk to boys after the new year. Will do it together. I will send you the draft agreemetn by this week. Ta and have a good day."
No reply from. No...I am not going to harrass him. I just feel that I need to be the one to take action now....
