Happy New Year YoYo, I have been just catching up on your thread. WOW.
Do not allow yourself to become down again. Let me point something out to you even though it may not do any good.
You were being something of a stalker to your H with all the texts (which you have done before) but then you stopped and decided to act as if you didn't care and look what happened. All of a sudden H was interested in you again.
Didn't you notice that while you were harassing him he didn't mention sex talk and didn't have much time for you but the moment you acted as though you were over the whole thing then he starts ringing and texting and starts calling you hot names and wanting sex.
YoYo I point this out because your H knows you better than I think you know yourself. When you are all mean and bombarding him with texts about OW and seperating he sees it as you being noisy and just raving on and annoying him and he doesn't care - why because you make it easier for him to not have any guilt and not to miss you because what you are doing when you annoy him is not attractive to him BUT when you act as though you couldn't care you become attractive and sexy to him and he wants to make sure he can still have you.
This is just my observation and I am sure others will agree with me but what you make of it is up to you. I agree with your friend one month is nothing he should know what he wants but by now I would hope you know what you want too. It is hard but one of you needs to bite the bullet and do something because this back and forth helps nobody. It will be hard once a decision has been made but see how well it goes in trying to stick to it - Hey you can always change your mind or so could H.
Have you found out where you stand legally in your Country. I know you have said what you think but have you actually found out for sure. I would be inclined to know my rights so as if one of you do make a decision you know what you will be dealing with if it ends up that you officially seperate.
Yoyo you have been really strong over your last few posts and have had a much better reaction from your H so please do not go back to the other YoYo just keep doing what you have been as you seem to cope better that way too.
I wish you alot of luck and hope my observation helps you, it was not having a go at you because we all know how much easier it is to give advice than to act on it....Kim
