Friday..(Okay this is a bit R rated. Not trying to gross anyone out but just want to journal so that I still have some record of what H texted. So, please skip this section) From my last post, just before I left my workplace for the weekend, got a text from H... H: For my info...are you still as h*rny as ever?? Or cool down already?? Me: It is none of your business!! H: Why cannot tell me?? Want a good f**k tmrw?? Can't remember what were my reply texts...but we had like another 13 text exchanges on these notti stuff I think my last text to him was to ask him to STOP. He did finally send me one that is more 'normal'..."Gotta go. Just spoke to boys...Bye. Call u tmrw". (Boys were over at my mom's as I was out shopping for my SIL's wedding gift on Friday)
Did send him a short text after to ask how much was the budget for the gift. He didn't reply, and I just went ahead to buy something for the bridal couple. And just sent him a text "Forget about my earlier text. Bought already. Cost $$." and left it at that.
Saturday... Went for my Yoga class at 8.30 am, came home and read with S5, then went for my bikini waxing and then went to my mom's for lunch. Then went for my manicure/pedicure appointment at 2 pm. Did my nails, and whilst waiting for my toe nails to be dried, got a call from H on my mobile. Asked where I was blah blah blah, and he would be at the station in about 15 minutes, would I pick him up or should he take a cab blah blah blah. Told him that I would be done in about 10 minutes, but it's up to him how he wants to get to the house. Then, to my surprise, he said to pick him up and "let's have a drink first". I agreed. Met H at the hotel adjacent to the station. Told myself in the car to be CALM, and have NO expectations, and to NOT ask any questions. Throughout our drinks, I was grinning as I was adhering to my NOT asking questions and NO expectation. H commented "You look very cheeky. As if there is something up your sleeve. What is it? What is it?" He was sooooo not used to me being like that. I just answered that "Nothing. Just not gonna ask ANYTHING". We were at the hotel for about 45 minutes... and he was like "Ask me! Ask me at least one question... I am really not used to this. You look really cheeky!" He he he...I sure made him a little stirred. He did bring up about where he would be staying for the night... Me: I don't know. I am not going to ask. H: If I don't stay at home, you gonna show me the angry face!! Me: I won't. Told myself that I will not expect anything. So it's up to you. H: So, it's okay that I check into the hotel? Me: Go ahead. It's up to you. (My mood was still rather good. And I was calm) SOmehow the topic sort of got lost. We had drinks, we talked about all sorts, did 'remind' him that he has 3 weeks more till the deadline, and then we will talk. For now, I will not ask questions. He told me his travel plans (some that were beyond THE day) . At one point, H even suggested that I show him my boobs there!!! I told him don't be crazy!!! And then he suggested we go into the toilet for some hanky-panky!! NO! We didn't!!! The toilet was too busy to sneak into it. .. Otherwise, I would be game for it... LOL I know that I am a notti girl!!! Anyway, as we were leaving the bar (had to get home to the boys), H actually pulled me up and kissed me. I have to say that I was a bit shocked! Of course I seize the opportunity and kissed him back! We then walked to the car and H said "I'll drive" there was no mention of him staying somewhere else...but he did comment something like "These hotels are not gonna believe me anymore. Everytime I make reservations and I don't turn up". Got home, H said the customary Hellos to the boys, and then we sort of got the boys to be interested in their PS2, and then both of us were off doing our business At one point, S8 did knock on our door and we were like "go away and we'll be there in a while!". After that, we veg out a little and then got ready for my SIL's pre-wedding dinner over at my MIL's place. Met some cousins who just travelled from Country Y. We had dinner... and was quite pleasant. Don't know if H felt awkward but I think the evening went on fine. Went home, got boys in bed. H was trying to arrange for drinks with some friends. I went to bed first, and not knowing if he did go out or not.. but he did come to bed and told me that his friends were busy.
Sunday... Early day. Got up and got ready for SIL's wedding. After the ceremony, suggested that I cooked something for lunch back at home. Drop the boys home and we went to the shopping Centre together. H waited for me at Starbucks whilst I did some grocery shopping. After that, we had a chat at Starbucks....talked about my work, office politics blah blah blah. It was quite pleasant. Some of the 'questions' that H asked (NOT getting hopes UP nor to have Expectations...) - Is the job in Country X still available for you? - Do you think that you could get $$ for housing allowance in Country X? Your $$ housing allowance + my $$ housing allowance, and we could get a huge mansion! - If you work in Country X, would it be full time or part-time? Is part-time possible??? So, the job in Country X would just be for you to pass time? - I went to see the big house again. Was really interested but then have second thoughts now. It is really old. Puddles of water in the back that could breed mosquitos. Rooms are unfurnished...don't even have curtains. Throughout our chats, was very calm and answered his questions as much as I could but when it came to the house, I didn't say anything...
Anyway, went home, I got ready to make lunch while H veged out. We had lunch and then he went out to have drinks with his ex-coworkers...yup, the company where he met ow. I didn't ask who went. Didn't want to ask. Minimize on the ASKING questions. He volunteered most of the info. I had a nap and was gonna go out for my beauty appointment (yup...to have my hair done and face made-up for the wedding dinner). Then H called and said that he was on his way home and would I wait for him. Without thinking, I said "What for?" He he heh.. Anyway, he said to wait for him to get home before i leave for my appt. He got home and he wanted me to write the speech for him...speech that he was supposed to give at his sister's wedding banquet. I was LOL and said "After all the thank yous, you can say something like Marriage is a partnership between two ppl. It requires commitment, trust, love blah blah...HA HA HA". He looked at me funnily, grinned abit and then said "I don't have to say that...". He knew what I was getting at. Kept it really light...and went out for my appt.
When I got back, H looked at my made-up face and grinned. I said "What? Ugly? Funny? What?". He said "No. Just different!" We changed and went to the banquet.
Anyway, wedding banquet was great. Had a lot of compliments!!! Even my MIL didn't recognize me. I got so many compliments that I looked good, sexy etc that I actually said "Now I am thinking that I must really look like a cow on normal days!" Oh... had one relative who commented that I looked like one of the Oriental starlet.... (Oh btw, I wanted to look good on this day because BIL/SIL and ow works in the same industry...was hoping to let some folks know that H's wife, ie. ME does not look like a cow! And look glamorous... and H is still 'together' with his wife. And maybe...just maybe word will get to ow that H is seen with his wife. )
Got home, put boys to bed...it was LATE!! And while I was in the bathroom to commence washing up...H came in, unbuckled my bra and started f*ndling my b**bs. And needless to say, we ended up having another session.. till rather late. After the session, he actually made supper and watched football in bed...
Today (Monday), Got up and supposed to take the boys to school. Boys just refused to get up. H said to let them sleep-in. So, we actually let them off school today. I went back to bed, and H said that he was going off. Woke up and was going out of the door for work, when I saw H has left his jacket on the sofa plus a couple of other pieces of clothing in my wardrobe. (Previously, he actually did not really leave anything behind, and wanted to take his dirty laundry back with him to Country X.) Anyway, as I was leaving the house, S5 came running out crying...looking for H. I called H and asked if he was coming back to the house and he said NO. Told him to call S5 as he was crying...and he said okay. He's trying to renew his identity card as he needed to get a new passport, and he's waiting for his turn. He texted me at about 8.30 am and said that he wasn't allowed to use his phone, and that he'll call the boys later. He sent me another text at 10.00 am "Still waitng...talk to u some other day. Spoke to boys already". When I received that..I was like "some other day???" but then decided to not fuss over those few words. Not gonna let anything bother me. And got another text at 11.05 am with just two words "still waiting...". I did reply with something witty to cheer him up.
Okay... I know normally DBING would ask us to look at baby steps...so I will just list them here but NOT getting my hopes up NOR expect anything... - Stayed overnight (2 nights) at the house - Left his laundry and suit behind in the house - Left his expensive watch behind - Asked me to have drinks on his own initiative - Gave me a kiss - Laughed at my little comments/jokes - Did not get angry or irritated at me throughout the weekend - Talking about my job in Country X (Guess some talk is better than none...just that I shouldn't dwell on it)
Okay...the negatives.. - spent money on new suit - spent money on DVDs and music CDs - spent money on new golf set - spent money on golf games - told me that he does not have enough to send money to pay for our investment property - did mention about ow...not specifically her name but used "her"... - said "IF anything happens, I will provide for boys" (the negative is that he still does not know?? The positive is that boys will be provided-for!)
H will be back on THE day... I will see what happens... regardless, we will have to sort US out. In summary, I think it was a good weekend.... despite of all the sh!t.
He did finally send me one that is more 'normal'..."Gotta go. Just spoke to boys...Bye. Call u tmrw". (Boys were over at my mom's as I was out shopping for my SIL's wedding gift on Friday)
