Drama, drama, drama. Just reading your sitch exhausted me. Yeah...sounds like some kind of soap opera. H is soooo yoyo-ing and coupled with my own yoyo-ing ...we are the YOYO champions!! And I have to admit that it is rather exhausting. But as Kismet says...I am like a Duracell battery.....
It's the emotional part that have our WAW's attracted to another. True...worse now as I found out that ow is a MASTER manipulator of Men. My H is entrapped in her web....
did notice H being rather "distant" this trip as compared to the last weekend before. Mmmmm...wonder why... I know why now...SIL came over to pick her daughter yesterday(temporarily being baby-sat by my parents) and she told me that she actually texted her brother about two days before he came back for Xmas. Something like "Please be careful. Ppl from M knows her". He texted back "You don't know her...blah blah blah". and SIL texted back "Yes, I don't know her. But ppl know her. You just be careful" or something like that. That could be why he was acting rather distant and defensive of ow when he was back, and didn't really talk to his sister over Xmas dinner.
The OW sounds like a blood sucking leech and doesn't care who she hurts to get what she wants. The sad thing is H is drawn to her, will give her what she wants, and when she dumps his ass for another conquest this may end up hurting not only him, but you and the boys financially. What a f*cking b!tch. Sorry. Firstly, NO need to say SORRY. She is a F@cking B!tch with a Capital F and a Capital B!!! Yes, she is indeed a blood sucking leech. My SIL was telling me that she just very briefly mentioned to her friend SF (from my last post) that her bro now is messing about....with a girl named E. And SF herself, piped up and asked "EL? EL from XYZ school?" and proceeded to tell my SIL about her antics from school and in uni. Apparently, ow managed to manipulate a man to get her a permanent residency in the country (where she went to uni) and two days later, flicked him off. That was around 7 years ago. Sooo..she is one MASTER and PROFESSIONAL at work. I really wonder what she is after in my H. Perhaps she realised that she can't be manipulating men and flicking them off for long (she is not exactly young) and she is trying to just get some poor sucker of a sod to marry her ?? And that sod has to be my dumb@ss of a H. I don't know... My other friend (no relation to SF or my SIL) says that ow openly brags about her conquests ...her ability to get men, and even talks about my H. AND my friend tells me that she is still galavanting around town with other men. My friend was like saying "if he is getting her exclusively, at least something. But the fact that she is still going around with others... Only your H is soo stupid to share. I thought men don't like to share???" Only my stupid dumb@ss of a H is soooo dumb. Defintely can't tell him so...he'll say "ppl are jealous of her..trying to defame her blah blah blah"...so might as well just keep my mouth shut. *sigh*...I mean almost the whole world knows of her antics, only my H is soooooo blind.
Journalling... Two missed calls from H in the evening, and then he sent me a text to tell me that he called but no answer. He will call tmrw to talk to boys. I know I shouldn't have but did text H on some R issues. He texted back and said he'll call in 10 minutes. When phone rang, asked the boys to answer and they spoke to him. Then S5 called out to me "dad wants to speak to you". Spoke to H....he sounded rather "normal"...not angry at all. Talked about some of his work issues then ended call. SOme further text exchanges between us. Non earth-shaking. Oh...but I did send him a text "for what it's worth, I still love you...if it means anything to you..."
This morning, did send him a text to remind him on some practicalities and also asked what he wants to get for his sister's wedding. He texted back telling me that it was up to me..
That's it... don't want to analyze...getting me no where with that. I think I will start back with some rules/goals.
* Back to ACTING AS-IF all is okay * Do NOT say NO when H says he will call me * Be CHEERFUL * Be POSITIVE * Be PLEASANT * Be PATIENT * DETACH, DETACH, DETACH.... * STOP being sarcastic * STOP being negative
And I have to admit that it is rather exhausting. But as Kismet says...I am like a Duracell battery..... 
