Still Yoyo-ing About #5....

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Yoyo- I have to agree with your GF. That's part of DBing, focusing on yourself. All this a@@uming sh!t is not going to get you anywhere so you need to stop it. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I'm doing it because I care what happens to you.

You need to stop thinking about OW. Pretend the f*cking bitch doesn't exist. Once you do this it gets easier to conentrate on rebuilding your M (if that's what you want). I know you have given your H until the end of January, but will you be emotionally ready to walk away from your H and M? To me it sounds as though you are holding a lot of resent towards your H for the A, which is understandable; however, in order for you to move on you need to let that go. You want your H to see Yoyo as the loving girl he fell in love with and married, and not some shrew who will be plotting against him if he decides to move on with OW.

Please, don't get me wrong, I am on your side. These are some of things that I did in my sitch and it helped me a lot. H and I have been back together for 64 days now, some days good, some days not so good. Learning DB skills has helped me a lot on how to deal with H.

Hang in there. Go dark if you need to. It seems H reached out to you when you did.