Quote: Please . . . can anyone redirect yoyo? I just don't have the wisdom yet.
This is a journey that the LBS takes just as much as the WAS. We can honestly all feel the pain and frustration that she is going through...we've all been there. I think we all have to reach our own decisions in our own time. People can offer suggestions, advice, support but in the end it is up to the individual. It is they who they must deal with the consequences of their decisions. Not us. I try to not think of things as mistakes but as learning experiences...we try different things with our WAS and we can monitor the results to see what positive/negative actions result from that. But I think the hardest part is reacting to our emotions. We are so driven by the emotions and the fear that sometimes we just can't move past that. It helps to detach...detaching is the key...but no one can force someone to detach unless they want to and each person seems to do it in their own way. I have found that women are the quicker ones to detach (I could be very wrong) but we tend to get frustrated easier and give up easier and move on. Why I don't know. Perhaps it is because we feel so much more emotion initially and we feel it so very strongly that it is easier for us to move forward quicker. Men do tend to hold in their feelings a bit more than women.
This is Yoyo's journey...we are all here to support her in anyway that we possibly can and that she will accept from us. Big hugs Yoyo....I can tell you really need them today from all of us. I know how stressful that this has all been especially now in the holiday season. I truly wish that I could take the pain away for you.
