Bonkers - THanks for dropping by... No, I didn't stop him from being Santa nor did I say he could be Santa. I just didn't reply to his text. I figured that keeping silent was better than being sarcastic. So, we shall see if he does come back for Xmas as he said he would ... Don't think the door was slammed at all. In fact, it's been wide open till H is free to eat his cake from me and ow. I think this has gone on long enough that H may be somewhat disillusioned? I don't know..but I am really sooooo tired of his talk and talk and talk. So, I have resolved to just hearing his talk (not listening). So, I either say.."oh..good for you" or keeping silent when I can't think of anything to say. I have to say that I am rather detached now. I don't even know how to feel hurt or angry. Just so tired to have any feelings ..LOL.
Journalling.... I went over to my SIL's for dinner last night. MIL was there too. Of course convo revolved around my sitch and my H. MIL was rather funny, she said that if my H and I were to D, she will make me her god-daughter. I actually mentioned this about 2 months back to H, and he was like "Gawd! Stop saying. You probably will turn me off s@x with you...it's like incest!". Ha ha ha. Anyway, MIL was saying that at the end of my deadline, I will really have to cut him off. No being nice, no having family dinners like Saturdays etc. I told her I know..OUr rough 3 person convo.. SIL: If you really want to heal, you have to completely cut off... even changing your mobile phone number. Me: Huh? BUt how would he arrange to see the kids? SIL: Too bad. He would have to call the house. So, if he gets to talk to you to arrange, then fine. Otherwise..too bad. Me: Oh yah...speaking of visitation of the boys..my mom said that H would not be allowed to see or pick the boys from her house. It would have to be when the boys are not in HER house. And I don't want to really meet H. So, (me looking at MIL) would you want to pick the boys up and send to H? MIL: Of course NOT! I am not going to do that for him. Forget about him. Ask him to come and pick the boys himself. You just don't be around when he comes over. Who cares whose car he comes round in. Me: You do realise you are talking about your son. MIL: I know. Me: (Looking at SIL) WOuld you do it? Take the boys to your brother? SIL: LOL...Ask the two boys to take a cab there themselves .
Other bits from my SIL "You have to make sure you take as much alimony as possible. Don't be soft on him. Oh..when you go and see the ow in January, I will go with you. Of course you only talk about money with him...what other things is there to talk about when he is never around to participate in anything??"
Bits from MIL to SIL "You brother..just come back once in a blue moon and spend one day with the boys. Like that you call being a father???"
Anyway, in short - they have been very supportive of me....
