Right now, I just don't know which way is up, quite frankly. I guess these feelings are normal. Hold on GF, the ride's just starting! It seems to be a common theme on this thread. Things look up, and there's still frustration involved. I totally agree with you that it's easier to deal with the dark at times. It's a *known*. This piecing is a mystery and it takes a lot of patience to watch a R evolve not knowing what the end result will be. Moving on and divorcing is painful, but it's more of an individual thing. It's complicated to do this when we must rely on someone that has at times destroyed our trust.
Hang in there! There might be a lot of ups and downs, but your H's realizing he isnt sure it's over is major progress!