All right. Let me try again. I was interrupted last time...

I think you may need to ask yourself a thing or two. Do you want this to work? If you do, then you may have to validate some things you don't necessarily agree with.

More importantly, it seems to me (not like I know) that reconciliation can get really bogged down in antsy anticipation and worry. Am I doing the right thing? Wne will the other shoe drop? When is it my turn to be vindicated for being hurt? All understandable but dangerous thoughts.

I'm sure it may seem impossible, but since you are the strong broad type, maybe you can just be yourself instead. At this point, he has 'd you twice in a week and took you out on a date. It seems to me that it would be fairly safe to just hug and kiss him if you get the urge. Doesn't seem like pushing anything to me. Remember, he needs some reassurance that (a)you are not just playing him and (b)he is the only one for you. Why not give it to him by doing loving things that you actually enjoy?

When he seems cold, you may want to ask yourself if YOU are necessarily the cause. Sometimes people feel bitchy for completly different reasons than their spouse, ya know?

I don't blame you for feeling "What about me?" Question is, what is it you want? To stay married and move back in together? If so, then THIS IS what you are doing for you.

Sorry preggo, you just KNEW I was going to read this.