Kismet no until you posted that I had no idea there was a Secret Valentine going on but what a fab idea. I have e-mailed you so I hope you got it.
KDK hi love good to see you again to, you don't have to give advice just nice to know you are around and watching out for me so thanks.
Small Update.....
H rang last night and no problems at work and as I said to him well "Forearmed is Forewarned" (Not sure if he knew what that meant). So his day was O.K. his boss didn't call him in so we will see if it happens today, otherwise maybe his boss realised he was being unreasonable, we will see.
H and I chatted about it a little and I asked if he was feeling better about it all and a little more confident now that he was informed on his rights and he said yes thankyou it helped alot. I said good just remember if things get too difficult or too hard to understand if boss calls him in then just pick up the phone and give me a call and I will try and steer him the right way, I said I didn't want to interfere but if he needed help to ask.
He said I wasn't interferring and that I had made him feel alot better about the sitch and he would definately ring if he needed to b/c he said I handle all this stuff much better than he does b/c he gets stressed out when put on the spot and doesn't think clearly. I just said that is fine, just remember to not agree to anything and if need be tell boss he needed some time to think b/c he needed time to process what had been said.
So all is good so far. That was about it but i think he was truly grateful and appreciative so I guess that is good.
Kismet yes it can be a bit like walking on eggshells when he is testy but it's not quite the same as pre-bomb. Now if he starts to crack it I just ask him what the problem is and if it is something silly, I just say calm down thats not a big problem really give it 5 mins and see how you feel.
It is often that one of the kids will annoy him and rather than scold them he will just turn around and say to me I am going home I don't need this $hit. To which I reply, Hang on I haven't done anything and you can't just run off when there is a problem you need to sort it out. I am not angry so talk to me.....
He normally then calms down, before I probably would have cracked it with him and told him to not be so ridiculous so I guess that is some progress on both parts....
Nothing more to add, he is on afternoon shift again tonight so will only speak to him on the phone so till tomorrow, see ya.....Kim
