Hi Kim...just want to comment on what Still Hopeful said. She is so right (again!). When H and I reconciled the first time, I would say it was at least a year, maybe 2 before I felt "solid" again. And my H did resent my need to reassure myself sometimes...it was pride, no doubt. He wanted to know I still admired him as a good man, even after what he had done.
Hang in there. If you do give up, let it be because you know your H is not the partner you want or need in your life, not because you are tired and frustrated. It will be worth it!
