KDU - I agree with the rest...that you've come a looooong loonng way to give up out of exhaustion. If you feel that you are at the end of the road, perhaps you could go away on a short break... away from your H for awhile. I know that I am not the right person to be advising (considering my yoyo-ing pattern for the last few weeks.. ) but I really think that you are just tired of the "holding" pattern. You are looking for H to be feeling soooo sorry for the pain that he has caused, and you want him to beg for forgiveness, to do anything that he can to WIN you back, and you are feeling frustrated because you are not getting that. The book "Surviving and Affair" by Dr. Harley did have a chapter whereby when the WAS returned to the LBS - sometimes they are still sooo arrogant and feel that they were right, blah blah blah. So, in your case, the sitch is not too bad. It's just not what you had hoped. I guessed all I can say is GO get a manicure, a massage and hang loose for awhile...
) but I really think that you are just tired of the "holding" pattern. You are looking for H to be feeling soooo sorry for the pain that he has caused, and you want him to beg for forgiveness, to do anything that he can to WIN you back, and you are feeling frustrated because you are not getting that. The book "Surviving and Affair" by Dr. Harley did have a chapter whereby when the WAS returned to the LBS - sometimes they are still sooo arrogant and feel that they were right, blah blah blah. So, in your case, the sitch is not too bad. It's just not what you had hoped. I guessed all I can say is GO get a manicure, a massage and hang loose for awhile...