Been following your threads for a while; I can sympathize with the struggle for asking H to be transparent. I have asked H to call me at night when he's out or working late, b/c that is the time I struggle the most w/ trusting him, and he pretty much just laughed in my face. I don't think his response was in so much that he doesn't want me to trust him again in that he feels I control him. Me asking him to call is just another attempt, in his eyes, of me trying to exert control over him. But it does make it harder for us, the betrayed, to decide whether or not our R are utimatley what we want still when our basic needs and boundaries are not being met.
Hang in there; I hope with time and patience things improve between you and your H.
PetiteFlower
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